A Mother's Admiration

Nearly four months ago, I wrote a blog of what to wear on my daughter's wedding day.

A well-laid plan can go awry indeed. Well, was it planned? Or was it only wishful thinking? Probably this time, what I had in mind on that particular moment may now fall into a 'wishful thinking' pitch called 'circumstances beyond control.'

There's nothing to despair. If it will not happen now, there will always be another time. Perhaps in a much more significant event. I thought getting married is the Most Important one? Then, what could it be?

Last Monday, I accompanied my daughter to the nearest Bridal Shop in our area. It's only walking distance from the station and walking was we both need. I seldom go out, so taking our time by slowly strolling down the lane was a good breather. The gloomy inclement days in the past week decided to switch from depression to a sunny mood. So the favour was glazed on our side.

As it happened, the dress that my daughter scanned on the internet was not actually available in that shop. Anyhow, she tried fitting few dresses to no avail as their sizes were not meant for her. She was told to pay their main outlet a visit. It's located in the city.

So, yesterday, we continued the search for my daughter's wedding dress. She asked me to meet her in the city. There was a slow, but steady downpour and blissfully, without a flood. Having entered an old Edwardian building in George Street, we took a lift to the third floor. It was our very first inside that building and we were met with amazing grandeur of magnificent and impressive upmarket luxurious novelty shops upstairs.

A Bridal's Blessing shop has this huge rack after rack, after rack and after rack of wedding gowns. They ranged from classic to elegant and chic and stunning to simple made to measure samples of dangling golden, white, silvery sequinned, pearl, and diamond studded bridal gown designs.

The attendant lady was very gracious, helpful, friendly and above all patient to which my daughter was very comfortable to deal with. She tried on about nearly a dozen samples to find her choice and size. When you are short and you are in a Land of Tall People, what do you really expect? Anyway, there's always means to an end. When all things are considered, she will have her final fitting a week before her wedding day which is? ...next month. Cope that!

As a mother of the bride to be and a mother-in-law to be, I admire the way how this young couple handled their predicament. First thing first, their plan to get married was met with objection from people outside their own family. Naturally, their plan was stifled by few unpleasant hitches. If both were not patient, considerate and cool headed in approaching and balancing the hurdle, it was possible they could have lost each other.

Even in love as life itself has its own setbacks and drawbacks. Some trials would test the depths of the water and the mood of the climate even in an established relationship. If it's not strong, then a tie can sever before it is bound.

They could have pushed their best plan in full steam should no one had given them a hard time. Though some things are not meant to be, I think the trial helped them to be strong and made them learn how to stand up for their principle of what they believed is right. They sat down, contemplated, prayed, put their two cool heads together and with much determination beat the odds that came with the help of some enlightenment, encouragement, support, love and prayers from friends and families. They were able to gather their wits and rationalized some facts as they both faced headlong in solving their dilemma.

While they were in that predicament, I never tried to interfere to any of their affairs, but I was there anytime they needed my voice. I continually keep my ears on the ground. Sit back, wait and see.


They managed to put everything back into perspective. Then, they got engaged. Soon after, they wasted no time planning for their future and candidly discussed about things concerning their life together including building a family.

As of this writing, both are working very hard for their wedding plans, making consultation with each side of the family. Admiringly, they have artistic skills combined, they basically did everything on their own.


The other day, I finally got the courage of asking my daughter, being so young, you could never underestimate the degree of her maturity. This was the question, I shot at her: How did you make your relationship work?

Answer: First of all, we are best friends. Secondly, we demand of each other. And those demands are mostly petty.


Actually, as I have observed them, there's a great deal of understanding and patience involved there. As well as support and love above all.

This is one of the many blessings that is very hard to come by. Most importantly, they have not forgotten their God to be a partner in their relationship.