Anger

Feeling angry? Tempted to punch a pillow? A punching bag? Another person…just to vent your anger and feel better?

It won’t work. Venting your anger only intensifies it, justifies it in your mind, stokes the flames even longer.

Your best solution is to close your eyes, stretch your arms (to relieve the physical tension) and take control of your emotions. Remind yourself that no matter what stupid thing the other person has done, everybody does stupid things (I know I have!) Remind yourself that in a few weeks time, maybe even in a few hours time, this will not even matter. Putting a small thing in perspective allows you to go on and enjoy your day, instead of fuming in anger.~The Happy Guy

There is one thing I remember in my Physics class where our teacher was talking about anger. I can't figure out until this time how Anger is connected to our Physics lesson.
What I remember about this particular teacher is, she was a real chatty lady and she talked non-stop, more of a blabber. Her humour cannot be mistaken to as being cunning.

Anyway, she was talking about a subject on Anger. And that if we get angry to someone, never ever write it on a paper and send it to someone who makes us angry.

We can still write our anger alright, express those negative emotions out, but put it under the bed and forget about it. Days later, we may want to get that letter under the bed where we hide it; she further advised us to read it, then tear it and throw it away.

A letter written in anger and send it to the person who makes us angry can bring terrible repercussion, she said. I always remember her counsel.

But one time, I was very furious at my ex-brother in-law that I had no option but to write him a letter and exploded all my pent-up anger at him I kept for years. Somehow, being a Retired Teacher and a Doctor in Psychology, he just reacted by saying, "well, at least she (me) writes." (I don't know if he is still alive. He could have possessed a cat's nine lives, who knows.)

Then on, our relationship was never ever the same again. And he never encouraged my nephew to keep in touch with us. His son was the cause of our rift. It was not the boy's fault for this poor little fellow was hungry for a family's love which he never gets from his own.

When his father had sensed that the boy's affection shifted on us, this man did something that confused the boy. So our relationship with the boy went downhill. When the boy returned to his father, this man never ever said thank you to us for taking and looking after his teenage boy whom we had a lot to put up with. Yet, it did not stop us from loving him.

Wherever you are Michael, we want you to know that we have missed you. I hope one day, you will come down to visit us again. You are the son I do not have.

Your cousins are thinking of you too. We now live in Sydney. But your other cousin went back to live in Orange. Soon she will be moving to live in Canberra.

I am not sure if you are married and have children of your own. And if you really went to live in New Zealand or not, we do not know.

We are not angry at you, but we used to be angry at your Dad. But nothing in this world cannot be forgiven. We love you Michael. And we miss you.

“Learning to use anger is no easy task. Yet the alternative—letting anger use us—makes us prisoners of our own minds.” ~Mark Epstein